Snap out of it
Y’all know I’m a big psychology and psychotherapy fan. The whole thing has been of great value for me, and I recommend it to people all the time.
HOWEVER, I agree that there are times and situations in which to keep focused on discussing your issues over and over is not just counterproductive. It is harmful.
And we’ve talked about energy treatments to change things in a higher level of consciousness, but sometimes even that is not quite really what you need.
The other day I was watching “Comedians in cars getting coffee” (Netflix series). It’s basically Jerry Seinfeld taking some of his comedian friends to drink coffee and keep talking about whatever (Seinfield style). In one of the episodes he starts making fun of psychiatrists. Saying that if he were to be one, he would keep listening for the whole 40/50 minute session, and in the end, he would tell the person to just “snap out of it.”
Of course, they started escalating that situation to several other funny consequences. Actually, not that funny (I stopped watching the show because I was unimpressed by the talks happening). Still, the “snap out of it” captured m
So the other day I was on my waxing salon and the waxer – a girl that I really like and that has a very challenging life – was going on and on about several situations in her life. I was quite interested and listening to everything, but I realized that me listening and she remaining on the subject was not doing any good for her. She was going deeper on being sad and hopeless. So I looked her in the eyes and said: “You know… sometimes you just gotta snap out of it”.
I like that
She looked me back and said: “I like that,” – and she repeated snapping her fingers – “just snap out of it.” I snapped my fingers and repeated again, “yes, just snap out of it”. A few seconds of silence. And after that she started talking about how much she would like to travel more, the trips she was planning, how she was being able to reserve some money to do that, and so on. And her face started looking brighter and happier.
I think it worked because I wasn’t asking her to change her opinion about something or to change herself (which could eventually lead us to a paradox – remember that post?). I just suggested she moved her attention out of that.
Well, her problems didn’t go away, but at least she took her mind out of it for a while. And sometimes that is all we need to recharge a little bit. Quite a nice
(Y’all know how seriously I take depression and this post is not implying that people with depression can “snap out of it”, but some people are overwhelming themselves with antecipated preoccupation and reviving stories. For those cases sometimes the best thing is to snap out of it).